These are reviews of different products that have help me in my recovery journey. Products I wish I had known about from day 1, but even so I am still happy to be using them today. I try to find ways to make things as efficient and user friendly as possible. I believe in working smarter not harder! I hope you enjoy these products as much as I have. I am always on the hunt for new ways to improve my sobriety!
Emotional Sobriety II ($9.99)
I have no idea what happened in Emotional Sobriety I but it cost $30 on amazon so I decided to opt for Emotional Sobriety II which was much more reasonable at $10. I was introduced to this book during a women’s meeting when we read excerpts and then discussed. This text is basically the best short essays people have submitted to “The Grapevine” (a monthly sobriety magazine that has been published since June of 1944). Funny story, I thought “The Grapevine” was specific to my local area because we are known for our many grape vineyards, but I was quickly corrected. “The Grapevine” magazine is published all over the world.
To incorporate Emotional Sobriety II into my life I recruit two friends to come over every Tuesday to cook dinner and read with. This tradition has become our own little book study. We really enjoy reading a passage together and then discussing it. I cannot tell you the number of times the story we have chosen so directly speaks to what’s going on in our lives. We usually pick Russian Roulette style and just randomly point to a title to read. Which makes me think there is a Power greater than myself at work in choosing.
The great thing about Emotional Sobriety II is that you can’t really go wrong with whichever story you chose. If I have an open mind I usually can find something in every passage that relates to my life. I would highly recommend this book to anyone in recovery, from newbie to old timers. And if you can find a few friends to read and discuss it with even better!
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up ($9.89)
Okay yes eye roll with me one time please. I saw The Magic of Tidying Up and thought, “Okay, little Miss Perfect teach me how to be oh so perfect like you” Needless to say I expected to really hate this book. And honestly some parts really annoyed me. They annoyed me because they were right and that is the most annoying kind of annoying. I am a complete cleaning and organization navest. I really want to keep everything tidy but my nature is to be lazy and mess. I have worked extremely hard in sobriety to become a neat, respectable person. What I liked best about this book is that it really was a step by step guide to getting each facet of your home & life tidy. Now I won’t say that I have implemented ever aspect of the book into my real life, but the few things I have implemented have helped tremendously. I feel when everyone else learned how to clean and organize I was too busy getting drunk at the bar. I don’t know but somehow I missed it and I am trying desperately to play catch up. The best thing I took away from this book is to just throw my crap away or donate it. I have held onto so many things “just in case” and this book helped me realize there is never actually going to be a “just in case.” Where I’m actually going to need any of the stuff I’ve been holding on to? Including, my prom dress. If you are new to this whole cleanliness business The Magic of Tidying Up is a great place to start.
Drop the Rock ($5.95)
I will start by disclosing that I did listen to Drop the Rock as an audiobook and followed along in my actual book. I’m not sure how that affected my experience of the book, but when I wanted to read it I was stuck in bed sick. For me listening to this book I got a lot of good advice from how important exercise is (link other article here) to how I can deal with my most glaring character defects. When I did my steps I felt immense relief when I finished my 6th step (Step Six-"Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character" ). This step was the first time someone had laid out all of my character defects, but not to punish me. Instead of punishment I was given the tools to overcome my character defects. When I realized that I didn’t have to stay stuck as the person I was and that there was a road map I could follow I was overwhelmed with joy. I went home from finishing my 6th step and fell to my knees crying tears of joy. Drop the Rock gives me the opportunity to work on those character defects more thoroughly. This book is part of the solution for me. If you have character defects you would like to continue to resolve this book would be a great tool for you to use.
Meeting Guide (Free)
Meeting Guide has saved my ass on numerous occasions and I recommend it to anyone I meet who is new in sobriety. The app is super easy to use. You just put in your location (or the location you're traveling to) and it will show you all the Alcoholic Anonymous meetings near you going on that day. This guide also gives you all the details you need to know about the meetings open/closed, men only/ women only/mixed, speaker/discussion. Another great feature is you can filter to just find just the type of meeting you want or the time, or day of the week you are looking for. All these features help to take out the guesswork until you find the meetings you really connect with. Meeting guide was really good for me when I first got into sobriety because I had no idea where to go. Well intentioned the people at my rehab gave me all these papers with meetings on them to look at and it was so hard to figure out which meetings worked for which day and which ones I could go to and which ones I couldn't go to and the papers didn’t have directions either! I was so happy when I found this app and the best part it is always with me on my phone. No more worrying about losing the paper with the meeting times on it. And in my experience you have to look really carefully to find the AA triangle symbol on buildings, it like people are trying to stay anonymous?
NoMo helps you track the minutes, hours, days, weeks, months and years sober you have. As deeply embedded as my sobriety date is in my brain, doing the math is hard sometimes. And the longer you have sober the harder it is to keep track of (this is a good thing I promise). If you've ever seen my Instagram you know I like to post exactly how much clean time I have and this app is what I used to make sure I’m accurately representing myself.
This app has a feature that allows you to track how much time, money & dignity you have saved. Ok that last part is a joke, but the $9,495.62 and 1,263.36 hours I've saved are no joke. I also have my dad sobriety clock on my app just to see the insane amount of days he has-- 6,659 days! One day it will all be mine! One Day at a Time….. One Day at a Time.
10th step (Free)
The 10th step of alcoholics anonymous states: 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
The 10th step app lays out all the questions exactly from the big book and what you would need to do a quick nightly inventory. The same exact questions you would find on page 86. Was I resentful, selfish, dishonest, or afraid? Do I owe an apology? Have I kept something to myself something which should be discussed with another at once? Was I kind and loving towards all? And all the other questions we should be asking ourselves nightly.
If you are like me-- doing anything when you are tired, right before bed, is extremely challenging--- TA-DA enter the 10th step app. I can quickly answer those 10 nightly questions with a simple yes or no and if need be I can write a comment. Most days it takes me under two minutes.
Then after I answer the questions I get a percentage based on my answers. Who doesn't love to try and beat their high score? All you have to do to win is to not be a selfish prick. Simple, right? Honestly, I don't always feel like writing something down on paper so this app helps me to continue working on the 10th step without any unneeded fuss or muss. And it is always with me so I don’t have to worry about losing a journal or notebook. The app also keeps all the inventories I’ve done so I can go back and reflect on past days.